The truth is that ‘tough feedback’ is a gift wrapped in pain.
It doesn’t feel nice to hear negative feedback, it hurts. It gets us ranting, it makes us feel dejected, but that is only for a little while. After a few hours, we have the knowledge, the insight, to make things even better. And that’s why feedback is a gift.
When we ask for feedback, however, there are three specific ways of getting ‘tough feedback’.